Army of bones

(Pictures from zara.com)

I was casually scrolling through zara.com, putting stuff in my basket and asking myself why I don’t write a blog post instead of wasting my time with such worthless activities.  Like an answer from the universe, my visit at zara.com reminded me about a very important topic that I have been postponing writing about for some time now. Not because I haven’t wanted to write about it but because It’s a topic that is so emotionally charged and sometimes very provoking. It is also a topic that is very close to my heart and that I, together with most women, have a personal history with. I’m talking body image and anxiety regarding our own bodies.

What struck me at Zara’s website wasn’t the fashion, it was the insanely skinny models. Not model. Models, as in plural. ALL of the models were really, really skinny. This is a very sensitive subject to many and it seems impossible to address this without stepping on anybody’s toes. To be clear, I am not ever gonna say that one body type or size is better than another and just like it should be totally acceptable to have a fat body it should be totally acceptable to have a skinny body (and everything in between). There are women who are naturally very skinny. However, there are not very many women who are naturally THAT skinny. I’m talking borderline anorexic. Some women can definitely be that skinny naturally and that is just as beautiful as any other body type but I know for a fact that many models, in general, don’t have a natural and healthy relationship to food because of the pressure and ideal the model industry puts on them. So the odds that some (or all) of the models that Zara uses are actually sick, are pretty high. And an eating disorder should not ever be promoted, regardless of how skinny the model is. So there was our first issue.

The second issue is that Zara didn’t have a variety of models in different sizes whereas some of them were very skinny. No, ALL of them were very skinny. That makes this a very provoking statement on their behalf. They have purposely chosen to have only very skinny models for their website. That means they think the clothes look better on a skinny girl and therefore believe they sell better when being promoted on a very skinny body. What a disgusting message to send out to the world, and particularly to all the young girls shopping at Zara who are not yet able to see through this unhealthy, brainwashing propaganda. The people at Zara who are responsible for these choices are obviously not unaware of the major issue we have in this world with eating disorders and unhealthy body images among young girls and women. Still, they chose to stick they heads in the sand and use only very skinny models. And before any smartass tells me “but the fitting samples that fashion companies use for the pictures only come in very small sizes”,  I’d like to compare that statement to a baker saying “Ohh, My customers are requesting buns with vanilla but I only make buns with cinnamon”. Ehm… Well, make a fucking bun with vanilla then. Make fucking samples of your clothes in a larger size. Have a variety of models to promote your clothes. Make more sizes and body types feel included. Stop promoting eating disorders. Make such a small simple change and be a contribution to a better fashion industry.

Zara is just one amongst too many companies promoting an unhealthy ideal for women.  On a positive note, there are also many fashion companies who have been smart enough to follow the fresh wave of body positivity that is currently growing and just the past year we have seen a lot bigger variety of bodies being represented in the fashion industry. Let’s hope Zara and the rest of the late bloomers will realize what a responsibility they have as such large companies and get onboard the train towards a brighter, happier future for young girls and women all over the world.

Lots of love,

Lisa Belinda

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My everyday makeup-look

I’ve gotten a lot of questions about my makeup in these pictures so I thought I’d be a generous sister and share my tricks for how to create this look and which products I’ve used. To be honest I’m not very versatile and experimental when it comes to makeup. I love trying new products but I don’t switch up my look very often. Some days I wear less makeup, some days nothing at all and on more formal occasions I might step up my game further but for these pictures, I did my favorite everyday makeup look. Regardless of how little or much products I’m using, my goal is always to create a natural look with a healthy glow. I’m not a fan of foundation. It removes the natural shadows in the face, making it look very flat and dull. When using foundation you have to contour afterward to get your features back and on most days, ain’t nobody got time for that. I like to use makeup to enhance my features, not to cover up or change anything.

Most of the products that I use are quite expensive but in regards to makeup, I’m more for quality over quantity. I don’t need hundreds of different products since I don’t do different looks very often and I will honestly say that all my expensive cosmetics have lasted form 6-12 months even if I used them often. It’s important for me that the products I put on my skin are as natural and skin friendly as possible. For eyes and lips, I can be less picky since my skin on those areas isn’t as sensitive and reactive. I have put together a list of the product I used for this exact look and how I used them. You’re welcome.

1. Under Eye Brightening Corrector- Becca Cosmetics: I use this to cover any darkness under my eyes. It’s not a concealer, more like magic in a jar. It has a light pink shade that just erases every little hint of dark circles and a little goes a loooong way. I just lightly dab it under my eyes and watch all signs of sleep deprivation fade away. Get it HERE.

2. Phyto-Cernes Eclat Concealer- Sisley: I use this both under my eyes and wherever I need to cover something. I dab a tiny amount on the sides on my nose or over any uninvited zit etc. Instead of using foundation to cover the whole face, I cover only what needs to be covered and let the rest of my skin breathe. I really don’t have perfect skin but one thing I’ve learned is that manically cover up every little pore on your face won’t make it will look better, neither immediately nor long term. This one is made with natural and skin friendly ingredients. It is expensive as fuck but if there is one product you should invest in it’s the product you put on your skin and potential problem areas. Get it HERE.

3. Cream Blush, Blossoming– Kjær Weis: I am a total blush addict. A good blush really lifts the whole face and gives it some warmth and life. It’s important to find a shade that is ideal for your skin color. This one is a perfect shade for me, both in winter when I’m pale as a ghost and in summer when I have a tan. It’s organic and made with natural ingredients which is a big plus. It’s a cream blush but I apply it with a brush because I find that gives a more even and natural result. Get it HERE.

4. Creamy Touch Highlighter, #707– Nilens Jord: This product is my holy grail. I can’t even describe how amazing this highlighter is. I’m very picky when it comes to highlighters because I always want a natural glow and I can’t stand when it looks sparkly or metallic. This one is also organic and very gentle on the skin and it’s not pricey at all. I love that it’s in form of a stick because it’s so easy to use. I put it on my cheekbones, on the bridge of my nose, on the tip of my chin, under my eyebrows and on the cupid’s bow. Rule of thumb is to put highlighter on all the features you want to enhance. Get it HERE.

5. Eye Shadow, Wisdom- Kjær Weis: This is an earthy, natural brown with a hint of shimmer but not at all sparkly. It enhances the color of blue eyes and creates a nice dimension without stealing the show from my baby blues. This one is also organic and made with natural ingredients. I use a fluffy eyeshadow brush and apply it in the crease of the lid and fade it out over the whole eyelid. Easy peasy lemon squeezy. Get it HERE.

6. Inliner, Sand– Idun Minerals: I apply this on the waterline of my eyes to make them pop. Most inliners are bright white and I think that looks too aggressive but this one has a nude beige tone which looks much more natural. It’s made with gentle ingredients and colored with minerals. Get it HERE.

7. Eye Brow Fibers, #02 Ash– Babor: I am a huge fan of eyebrow gel because you don’t need to be a pro to use it. I love this one because its colored and contains fibers so it puts the brows in place, gives them some color and makes them look fuller. It’s made with gentle ingredients and despite it being a tiny tube, it has lasted me a whole year. Get it HERE.

8. Vertige Longueur Mascara- Yves Rocher: This is the mascara I used for this look but I will honestly say it’s not very good. It’s difficult to apply without getting huge clumps and you have to scrape of basically all product from the brush before applying. I had heard so many praising reviews about it before purchasing but I’m gonna save you the trouble and advice you not to buy this one. If you want a really good mascara, check out THIS ONE from Fiberwig that I wrote about in a previous post. Another favorite of mine is Terrybly Mascara from By Terry in the shade Mocca Brown. I prefer to use a dark brown mascara for daytime since my look is very natural. I find it just looks more harmonious and not as harsh as a black mascara. I also always strive for length before volume, I honestly don’t care about voluminous lashes I just want them to be as long as possible.

9. Rouge Allure Ink, #140 Amoureux– Chanel: This is my guilty pleasure: Lip products from high-end brands. There is something so satisfying in applying luxury to your lips and just the sight of a beautiful packaging makes me excited about it. Lip products are actually something I’d like to experiment more with and I’d love to have a collection of colors to chose from. However, this is probably the only lip product that I have fallen so hard for that I will repurchase once it’s empty. It’s really the perfect color for my face. Just as with blush, it’s important to find a color that really fits you. It’s fun to experiment with new colors but personally, I like to wear a lip color that is just right and creates harmony in my face. I also love this one because it’s matte and the color stays put all day through breakfast, lunch and dinner, and makeout sessions in between. As all matte lip colors, it can make the lips a bit dry but not nearly as much as other similar products on the market do. I usually prep with some lip balm before applying. Get it HERE.

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I hope you enjoyed this post, I certainly enjoyed making it. Please leave a comment and let me know if you would like to read more post like this in the future. Have you tried any of these products? Do you have any favorites of your own?

Lots of love,

Lisa Belinda

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Through a filter of pink sparkly fairydust

      

I look so genuinely happy in these pictures that I’m almost able to fool even myself. I’m actually laughing for real because the photographer a.k.a.  my brother, was really funny. However, just because someone is able to laugh at a funny joke for a picture doesn’t mean said person isn’t having a shitty, fucking hell of a day. Just because a picture looks spontaneous and effortless doesn’t mean it hasn’t been planned into the tiniest little detail. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with planning and staging photos. When you work with social media you have to plan and stage your photos and kudos to all the hard working influencers who put their heart and soul into their jobs, creating amazing, inspiring content. But it’s important to let it be just that: Inspiring. It’s important to bear in mind that most of the content you see on social media is not as effortless as it looks. Sometimes it is but far from often. It’s important to remember that the girls you call “goals” have just as many issues and insecurities as everyone else. I used to follow so many influencers on Instagram that I considered “inspiring” but I’ve come to realize that they were only making me feel bad about myself for not having what they have, for not looking like they do, for not being as successful as they are. That is not inspiration, my friends, that is self-destructive.

I’ve unfollowed most of those accounts and now I only follow people I find actually inspiring. They can be beautiful, create amazing content, eat on the fanciest restaurants, travel to the most exotic places and buy the most expensive of bags as long as they don’t withhold the fact that they are human beings with issues and insecurities of their own. I’m 23 and it took me this long to get skin thick enough to differ bullshit from reality but many young girls out there are not able to make that analyze, I sure as hell wasn’t when I was younger. I’m happy to see that so many influencers have chosen to keep it real and be more authentic on their social media platforms but until Instagram includes “Be real or go home” in their user policy, we will have to take matters in our own hands. Do yourself a favor and unfollow anyone who makes you feel even slightly bad about yourself. Don’t hate on them because that is an effective downward spiral straight to hell that will only make the social media climate worse. Just simply let go of what doesn’t serve you. Inhale the empowerment, exhale the bullshit. Etc. etc…

xx

Lisa Belinda

 

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LET. IT. GO.

      

(Pictures from Pinterest)

The past weeks I have really made an effort to slow down. By slowing down I mean internally. Slowing down that rushing soul that’s so eager to get forward and so scared of getting stuck. I have spent my whole teens and adult life trying to control my thoughts and master my own mind and it’s resulted in more stress and more anxiety than I ever thought possible. The frustration that comes from failing to master something that can’t be tamed is more devastating than the initial anxiety.

Us humans get so stuck in our egos, in our own rigid tracks that we built for ourselves. We feel like we are looking everywhere and doing everything to find the answers to our troubles but we never leave those rusty old tracks. We could leave them whenever we wish to but we are so mentally chained to them that it takes a massive wake-up call to ever realize we are stuck. That’s exactly what I got when I spoke to my new therapist a couple of weeks ago. As I wrote in my previous post, I was going on and on about my frustration over trying everything but nothing working. My therapist stopped me and said: “You need to stop thinking. Not control your brain or change your thoughts. You need to learn to not think at all”. It was like a slap in the face. With a chair. That statement threw me off my rigid track with full force, leaving me battered and confused in the ditch. From there, I could see my issues from a whole new perspective.

I’m a firm believer that everything that life throws at us has a meaning and is suppose to bring us a teaching. Still, I’ve had a hard time understanding how this living fucking hell that is anxiety could possibly be teaching me anything. It’s only ever brought me pain. But from this new perspective that my therapist blessed me with, I could, for the first time ever, see the teaching. The more I struggle and fight against my anxiety the worse it becomes and the worse it becomes the more I fight back. What if this is life’s way of teaching me to surrender. TO JUST. FUCKING. LET. GO. As I’m letting this realization sink in, I can feel my shoulders dropping and I’m able to take the biggest breath of air I’ve taken in a long, long time. As Alan Watts said: “Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone”.

xx

Lisa Belinda

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